I recently attended 2 very special and very beautiful events: Pavel’s graduation ceremony and friends’ wedding. To me, both occasions are similar in a sense that everyone is supposed to be happy, drink Champagne, celebrate important accomplishments and liberation.
Like, there is no way I am going to be feeling deprived or somehow abandoned when kids go to college or at any of their weddings (provided, they invite me, which is obviously a big open question 😉 ), because I never thought about any of them as my “property”. The days when your livelihood would depend on your kids continuing family business or producing heirs are mostly over, and there are no guarantees that we can actually control our children.
It’s my strong belief that parenting is a form of a project, and every project manager would tell you that a project must have an initiating date, a closing date, several milestones, and the end goal. So, a parenting project that ends with a wedding or a graduation ceremony (not necessarily in that order) is generally a win for everyone.
Have you ever thought about parenting as a project in a sense that the role of a parent is to take their child from point zero to point one (defined as a mix of economic self-sufficiency, profession, moral compass, some level of social competence …) in the most efficient and rational way?